Transforming Fear to Joy

Love or Fear; Peace or War: Choose Wisely

When the chips are down, I can attest from personal experience that one of the hardest decisions we face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder.  Think of a situation (climate change, etc.) or a personal relationship (sibling, parent, friend, lover, co-worker) in which you felt there was nothing else you could do to make things better.  Did you walk away or even look away thereby washing your hands of any further responsibility?  If you are anything like me, at least one example of where I walked away is glaringly evident to me.  Although, it took place decades ago, there is still a niggling part of me that wishes I could have done more then or even now.

This push-pull inside with regard to doing more versus looking away creates an inner friction that holds these experiences in our consciousness.  So, though we may not be taking action, we are still expending energy on them.

Such unfinished business stays with us until we learn what it is we need to understand in order to take action or to legitimately let go.  In fact, life continues to present us with similar situations, not as punishment, but as opportunities to learn a new way.

As human beings, our physical, emotional and spiritual make-up happily call us to move in the direction of growth and fulfillment.  Scientists call this transformational movement evolution.  Spiritualists call it enlightenment.  Regardless of the label, it amounts to choosing between love and fear.  Again, call forth from your memory a time of significant growth in your life— marriage, divorce, death, birth.  Ask yourself, “In that situation, did I act from a place of love or fear?”

In my own life, I found that every experience I encounter presents this same choice — to respond with loving kindness or to respond with fear.  I would go so far as to say that this is the lesson we are meant to learn and relearn throughout the major points of change in our lives.  As early as adolescence and as late as mid-life or impending death, the choice remains the same.  And, of course, if we don’t get it quite right the first time, more opportunities to choose wisely are provided.

This same developmental choice exists for individuals as well as the collective global population.  I am convinced that, when given the skills and the chance, the greater majority of people would choose love.  Otherwise, why do we continue to pursue it, particularly via romantic relationships?  The challenge for humanity is our ineffectiveness, our lack of skill, in applying love.

In her words below, Marianne Williamson, 2020 U.S. Presidential candidate, exposes the results of America’s existing fear-based choices, which are merely a microcosm of what is happening globally.

Love does not look away from the fact that 40 percent of all Americans live with chronic economic anxiety. 

Love does not look away from millions of traumatized American children. 

Love does not look away